Parents today are obsessed with turning their kids into super achievers right from the time the little ones step into this world. The race that begins there goes on for a lifetime for most kids and more often than not, ends on a sad note.

Here's a poem for all parents who wish that their kids become super achievers

Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.

Such striving may seem admirable,
but it is a way of foolishness

Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.

Show them the joy of tasting 
tomatoes, apples and pears.

Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.

Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.

And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.

 William Martin, The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents

1.     Give Positive Feedback

Praise your students – Nothing beats it when it comes to encouraging students. Praise them verbally and in written modes. Praise them whenever appropriate – Do not shy away or let your ego come in the way of praising kids. Send notes to their parents through the students giving them an avenue to celebrate their success at home. Arrange for a mini awards ceremony within the class when you feel peer recognition will make a difference

2.     Set Realistic Expectations and Celebrate when they are met

Set long term goals for the students and short term goals towards achieving the long term goals. Reveal only the short term goals to the students till they are able to grasp the concept of long term goals. Work towards helping them achieve the short term goals and celebrate when they meet these milestones.

3.     Let  the students feel your passion and excitement

Excitement is contagious and it needs to stem from the teacher. A teacher brimming with excitement has won half the battle in ensuring that the content he/she teaches is absorbed by the students.

4.     Vary your teaching methods

Monotonous teachers are boring and can even become the butt of jokes. Vary your style.  Start your class with a small game at times. End your class with a surprise quiz. Vary your styles of teaching and it is sure to reap you rewards.

5.     Facilitate, Don't dominate

Today’s students get a lot of exposure via media, internet and other avenues that were not existent a decade or two back. Most of the times students need to connect the dots and they grasp the message. A teacher’s role in facilitating and ensuring that this happens is a lot more appreciated by students and parents alike rather than a dominating teacher who feels that she or he is right always.

6.     Make Topics Practical

Topics taught need to resonate with the students inherent curiosity of why something is worth learning. Even a drab subject needs to be spiced up and portrayed in the context of everyday things to ensure the practicality aspect is well understood.

7.     Point Success milestones to your students

Students often tend to miss their personal milestones while trying to catch up with the rest of the students in the class. A teach has to keep tabs on individual milestones and ensure the students realize that they have reached specific milestones and that development is a continuous journey.

8.     Get out of the Textbook

Textbook teaching is pretty boring. A good teacher needs to grasp the essence of the lesson and distil it for her / his students. They have to get down to real life examples that allow the students to gasp “Aahaa…We never thought of this!!!”. 

Parents often provide a lot of stuff for their kids wishing they would learn new skills and get inspired by thoughts. However, what gets forgotten is that just providing stuff is not sufficient for kids; we also need to provide them ample time to explore things at their own leisure and at times even without imposing our pre-conceived notions of what needs to be done with the stuff. 

Ex: We given them a toy train and then teach them to go around the house screeching "Kooo...chuk chuk chuk..." We are imposing our pre-conceived notion that a train can only make this kind of sound. Why not , for a change, try giving the kid a toy train and let him or her explore the train at their leisure. Guide them only when they come seeking your guidance...else just observe them from a distance. You will be marveled at their creativity and ingeniousness. 

Here's a video to inspire parents and teachers....Creativity is not inspired by the pressure of time but by the freedom of playfulness and  fun

Raising Kids is by no means an easy task. However, it is also one that is provides lasting satisfaction and a life's fulfillment. 

A lot of parents tend to impose rules of their own defined by their own experience with their parents and other lessons imposed on them by life. Parents are so consumed by their own way of bringing up kids that they tend miss some obvious mistakes they might be committing. Here's 15 of those that parents often tend to overlook.

(To avoid writing "he or she" repeatedly, I'll assume that the child is female.)
Author: Daniel Wong

1. Never Call her "stupid" or "useless"

It's shocking that, in a fit of anger, many parents call their child "stupid" or "useless". Cruel words like these can remain etched in her mind for a lifetime.

2. Do not decide everything for her

Doing this can make her feel like she's being restricted and that she's not wise or intelligent enough to make her own choices.

3. Do not overemphasize the importance of obedience

Some parents do everything they can to raise an obedient child, but this can come at the expense of the parent-child relationship.

4. Show affection at every possible instance

When parents rarely show affection, the child may begin to question whether she is loved.

5. Never Discipline her when you are angry

Discipline should be carried out when the parents are calm. Caning or spanking the child shouldn't just be an immediate reaction to something she has done.

6. Do not show conditional love

Parents wound a child psychologically when they appear to show love and concern only when she performs well in school or when she's well behaved. Children need to know that their parents' love is unconditional.

7. Never compare her with her siblings or with other children her age

Every child is unique, so she shouldn't be made to feel as if she's living in the shadow of someone else.

8. Do not praise her for her ability, praise her instead of her effort

Praising the child for her commendable effort will encourage her to develop new skills and try out new things, instead of doing only the tasks that she has already proven her aptitude in.

9. Don’t do the mistake of setting boundaries but not enforcing them

Parents often set boundaries with regard to behaviour, sleeping time, household chores, etc. When these boundaries are not enforced, it causes the child to become confused and, possibly, defiant.

10. Do not allow your emotions to get the better of them

Based on my observations, the majority of parenting mistakes occur when parents fail to control their emotions. When parents allow negative emotions to get the better of them, it indirectly gives the child the permission to do the same. This manifests itself in the form of temper tantrums and teenage angst.

11. Do not attempt to achieve their unfulfilled dreams through her

Many parents live vicariously through their children. This can, however, be unhealthy. Parents who force their child to study certain subjects or pursue certain careers—against her wishes—can cause her to become angry and resentful.

12. Do not continually bail her out of trouble

For example, if a child forgets to bring her mathematics textbook to school and is threatened with punishment, many parents would bail her out by bringing the textbook to school for her. This kind of parenting, however, doesn't teach her to take full responsibility for her choices and her life.

13. Never end arguments by saying "I know what's best for you"

Parents use this phrase as a kind of trump card, but it's hardly ever effective. Instead, parents should express how much they love and care for their child, all while stressing the fact that choices come with consequences that she will have to bear.

14. Do not shield her from challenges and discomfort

It's completely natural for parents to do this, but it usually isn't best for the child's long-term development. Challenges, discomfort and struggle are necessary for her to find enduring success.

15. Do not allow her to become the center of the family's universe

Many parents allow the child's wants and needs to determine the entire family's schedule, plans, etc. But when this is taken to an extreme, the home environment can become hectic and stressful. Instead, parents should make the child realize that she is an important member of the family, but that the world does not revolve around her.

About the Author and Source of article
Daniel Wong is an Education & Personal Excellence coach and speaker based out of Singapore. He writes regularly at www.daniel-wong.com. His recent article in Singapore Yahoo site talks of common mistakes that parents commit while raising kids. Reproducing the article for the benefit of Amruthavarshini website readers. Y

Leonardo-da-vinci, Newton, Marconi, Thomas Edison, the Wright brothers - they were all giants of scientific invention. They all came from different backgrounds. But they all had one thing in common. Happy or sad, rich or poor, they were all inquisitive kids.

Children always need an environment where there is much encouragement for them to pursue intellectual interests to investigate whatever aroused curiosity. Children need this kind of supportive climate very much. Then the children come up with new and interesting ideas. Conducting science fairs can be an excellent motivating force for kids. They also provide a wonderful opportunity for discovering and encouraging science talent. Children share their science projects with other pupils and with the community. It also helps youngsters utilize their time in a constructive way.

The fair should enable youngsters in trying to find out something they did not know before. Parents can help their kids by taking an active role in their exploration. It can be anything from sharing books to visiting web sites.

In lower classes, say up to class 4 or 5, don't be too rigid about the scientific method. Let it be ‘fun’ for them. Let them enjoy the activity heartily. As they reach the middle and high school grade, there can be emphasis on reasoning. Too much of insistence on scientific methods should not take away the fun. A boy who makes a motor out of wire, nails and battery cells would have gained a lot. Besides the value addition, the child will feel recognized as parents and peers praise him for the good job done. 

I see lots of parents who do not let their child play cricket or join scouting for the mere reason that their child may not do well in studies. For them any extracurricular activity is a distraction from studies.

Mr. Krishnan, an officer in a commercial bank told me, ''I want my kid to do well in English and Maths right from now. Only then would he do well as he comes to higher classes. See, the foundation needs to be very strong" referring to his only son studying in first standard. I pitied him. It took me a long session to convince him and somehow convince him.

When I took over as principal of a school, I took a firm decision to pave way for the all round development of the kids. Hence I introduced dance, instrumental music, wood craft, scouts and guides and many other activities suitable to the different age groups. Weekend co-curricular activities got added to the schools syllabi and I spoke to my teachers to conduct quizzes at the class level too. Children who were interested in gardening were provided a patch of land at the back of the school to grow vegetables.

One of the school committee members told me "I see children picking up co-curricular activities very well. But it should happen in study areas" I coolly told him, "It will happen. There will be a change" . Once children began partaking in the mainstream by joining activities, there was a sea change. Children began picking up well in studies too.

It is only when you provide for various activities, that children will be able to explore their individual strengths and weaknesses. Scouts and guides, social work, sports, for example build character and help develop important skills.

Skits, drama and dance - all these tend to be fun for kids. They enjoy putting up colourful dresses and playing different roles on the stage. They gained confidence and all the skills they pick up are transferable.

Today, educationists term extra curricular activities as co-curricular activities. They help in imbibing the very characteristics that are needed for success in classroom and in life. Each one of us has been bestowed with special abilities, but we have to explore them. Co-curricular activities are a wonderful programme in that direction.

As parents, try to find adequate time for your kids and provide them with first hand experiences. Certain experiences can be taken for granted depending on the community where you live. For example, children with a rural background will have a fairly good knowledge of seeds being planted and fertilizers spread. Never assume that your kids will get access to all sorts of life experiences in school. Even if the school is a good one and provides vicarious experiences, your approach will certainly will still stand out unique.

Look at the following few experiences:

1. Visit to a farm house.
2. Visit to a nursery.
3. Observing sparrows building nests, laying eggs and rearing their young ones.
4. Visit to a printing press or a garage.
5. Visit to a health clinic or a hospital.
6. Visit to a plastic industry.
7. Visit to an old age home or an orphanage.
8. Visit to a recycling unit.
9. Visit to a sericulture or a pisciculture plant.
10. Visit to a museum or a zoo.
11. Visit to a doll house or a studio.
12. Visit to a building construction site.

Never play down the importance of such visits while conversing with kids. Even if you are well versed, show a lot of interest in the activities there. Unless you show interest, how can the kids get enthused? Kids will definitely shoot dozens of questions, once he gets engrossed with the subject. Once you are in a site, discuss the situation, raise doubts, answer questions, compare things, appreciate good work done there and yes, at the end of it you will have contributed a lot to kid development.

I have seen some parents who think that their kids are too young to catch up. But, that is not a fact. Kids too can understand and appreciate. They are curious enough to know new things. Even your daily visits to your friend's place or market or doctor will have new experiences in store for your kids to see and understand.

For Gandhiji, a great philosopher and freedom fighter who led Indian freedom struggle, education meant, "The drawing out of the best in child and man - body, mind and spirit." For him literacy was no education. He wanted the child to be treated as a whole and imparted knowledge to. He emphasized the development of head, heart and hands. For him, education had its essence in practical work. He thought that the end of all education must be the building of character. Education should bring about the purity of heart.

He hated the kind of education wherein the child's mind is stuffed with all kinds of information without even stimulating or developing him. Thus education is that which draws out and stimulates the spiritual, intellectual and physical faculties of the children.

Gandhiji was a great teacher himself. He wanted teachers to be well trained, proficient men and women of knowledge, faith and enthusiasm. They must be people of character.

Gandhiji wanted to establish a classless, casteless society based on the principles of truth and non-violence. He advocated the introduction of craft in schools for creative self expression, practical work and learning by doing. He wanted children to develop a scientific look. He believed that every child is good by nature. Hence he insisted that the education provided needs to be psychologically sound.

Gandhiji interpreted education as the development of human personality. This outlook goes well with any modern concept of education. 

Yes, make it a habit to narrate stories to your children everyday. The best time slot is one after dinner. Stories stimulate thought processes in your children. They enable children develop their listening ability. Besides they enable children turn communicative. Children listen to stories and appreciate the good actions of the characters there in. The stories format the values and imbibe discipline in children. You may not be able to see immediate returns but they will make a long term impact on the character of children.

I always relished the bed time ritual of my grandpa who used to narrate beautiful stories every day sitting in the veranda of our house in his easy chair. These stories used to wrap up each day with a wonderful sense of well being. Sometimes he used to narrate his own life experiences and at other times stories from great epics Ramayana and Mahabharata or from treasury of stories that are the Bhagavata and the Panchatantra.

The style of his narration, I still remember, used to be naive. He used to bring in new words and use them in right context. He used to speak for different characters and the lucid interesting conversation used to keep us live on our toes.

In summer, we used to sit in the yard after dinner. We had no electricity in those days and it used to be dark. We used to carry our chairs and arrange them in a semicircle. He never used to scare us, and we never dreaded darkness. At times, whenever there was an interval we used to throw our heads back and wonder at the innumerable number of stars in the sky.

My grandpa used to render a touch of philosophy too as the stories unfurled, most of which were reflections from his own life. I always used to wonder at his ability to tell great stories. Clad in a simple dhoti and jubba, he was as simple as the messages in his stories.

Providing enough story books is one thing, but bringing alive the stories in them via narration totally transports the children to another magical world where there imagination runs free and enhances their thinking abilities.

As parents, let us not forget that science thrives on experiments and activities. Science is the how and why of things.

Young children should have scope for innumerable activites. Adults should never have the temptation to give out all the information before its pertinence ever occurs to children.

Science ought to be fun, adventure. Once while I was teaching in highschool, we had an opportunity to put up science exhibits for the All India children's Exhibition organised by National Council for Education Research and Training, New Delhi. I selected a few students to work on the project and they had to stay back after the school hours. One of the students who was scoring well in exams said "I do like to stay and work, Sir, but my mother doesn't want me to join. I am supposed to get a rank in the Tenth Standard Examination". This parent never understood the true nature of Science and how her kid's study should progress. She wanted her kid to be a bookworm, a walking encyclopaedia. She never wanted her child to have any fun.

Let us understand well that science is better learnt through activities, experiences, experiments and projects.

Children's experiences need to be real, concrete and tangiable. We should never get carried away by just contents and facts. Link experiences to children's life. Then they will feel a desire to know.

Remember, these young children will control the world tomorrow. Then they need to develop a better understanding of natural and physical phenomena. There is great drive on the part of children to know and get answers.We need to nurture the ability of kids to ask questions and seek answers. 

I have seen kids expressing, "I have lots of questions, but our teacher asks us to keep shut!" Encourage children to ask questions. Keep yourselves cool, patient and discuss with them. Time spent on answering children's questions is in no way a waste of time.